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When it comes to goals, January is really just a free-trial month. So don’t worry if you didn’t meet your New Year’s resolutions. They’re not nearly as important as setting goals for yourself.
I’ve blogged about S.M.A.R.T. Goals before, but now I have a worksheet for you that will help you establish more than just achievements and professional objectives.
Individual growth is holistic, but juggling professional and personal responsibilities is rough. It usually results in dropped balls and broken plates—or hearts. We’ve discussed the difference between important and urgent, so let’s figure out how to really make a priority of those important things that have been evaporating on the back burner for too long.
We Work Too Much
Perfectly (and coincidentally) timed with this post was a recent Twitter discussion on the pressure we put on ourselves to always be working:
The struggle is especially real for people who work at home:
“You do this thing where you’re never fully committed to work time or break time. Every day you get some work done, but you’re never in ‘work mode’. But then when you goof off, you feel guilty, ’cause you feel like you should be working on something. You should have designated work time, and work hard to get it finished. But then, have relax time, and actually enjoy it. I think you’d be a lot happier.”
The Personal Goal Planner
When creating this goal planner, I researched a dozen different life coaching techniques and ended up with four non-work categories that can end up falling to the wayside when we focus too much on work:
Keep reading for the download and a smattering of inspirational quotes in each category.
Let me tell you a little bit about the downloadable worksheet.
It’s made with color-coders in mind. I LOVE color coding, especially in my planners and goal notebook, and so I made this worksheet’s headings ready for you to color in.
Each section has some prompts to get you started. Write as many goals or thoughts as you want. You could print off a new worksheet every year, month, or week … but start small and work your way up. Don’t get too ahead of yourself, goal-setter, or you’ll lose sight of the finish line.
On the left, I’ve got a quote for each category. Keep scrolling through this post, and you’ll find quite a few more quotes, from more writers and experts and yes, celebrities. (It’s pretty hard to search for quotes by anyone else these days.)
Do you have a favorite quote I’m missing? Share it in the comments!
Here’s the sheet and the download link …
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Now let’s dig a little deeper into each category.
Marilyn Monroe once said, “A career is wonderful, but you can’t curl up with it on a cold night.” It’s great to be successful, but it’s even better when you have someone to celebrate with. Think of all the different relationships in your life, and all the different relational roles you have. Son or daughter, sibling, cousin, niece or nephew, grandchild, parent, mentor, coworker, peer.
List as many people that you want to connect with here. You can always add more later. Then focus on one person at a time. Maybe you set up weekly dates with a family member or friend. Maybe you set a day and cycle through friends each week.
If I don’t put something on the schedule, I don’t remember to do it. Or rather, I remember at inconvenient times, and then I forget to follow through.
Then think of how you can connect with these people. Maybe they have a specific love language—we all respond to all of them, but some people feel more loved when you “speak” to them in a particular way. Sometimes it can be as simple as sending them cat GIFs when they pop up in your feed. (Sharing cat videos is literally how I stay connected with childhood friends, and nobody is complaining.)
Quotes about Relationships from Writers and Celebrities
“A friend is a gift you give yourself.”
—Robert Louis Stevenson, 19th-century Scottish novelist
“Things are never quite as scary when you’ve got a best friend.”
—Bill Watterson, cartoonist and creator of Calvin and Hobbes
“Three keys to more abundant living: caring about others, daring for others, sharing with others.”
—William Arthur Ward, poet and columnist
“In my career, there’s many things I’ve won and many things I’ve achieved, but for me, my greatest achievement is my children and my family. It’s about being a good father, a good husband, just being connected to family as much as possible.”
—David Beckham, OBE, English professional soccer player
“My friends and family are my support system. They tell me what I need to hear, not what I want to hear and they are there for me in the good and bad times. Without them I have no idea where I would be and I know that their love for me is what’s keeping my head above the water.”
—Kelly Clarkson, singer and songwriter
What are you passionate about? What do you want to explore? What daring things do you need to try?
“I guess I don’t really know what I want to do, either. Sometimes I feel like a shook-up bottle of soda. Like, I have all this passion that wants to explode, but I don’t know where to aim it yet.”
Pursuing interests is important, and you know that, because otherwise you never would have come to my blog or website in the first place. Here are some inspirational quotes from artists like you, when you are feeling like your art or your story doesn’t matter:
Quotes for Creative Motivation
“Hold fast to dreams
for if dreams die
life is a broken-winged bird
that can not fly.
Hold fast to dreams
for when dreams go
life is a barren field
frozen with snow.”
—Langston Hughes, “Dreams”
“All I owe the world is my art.”
“It is not true that people stop pursuing dreams because they grow old—they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.”
“Vast, unknown stretches still lie before us, fertile territories just waiting for us to cultivate them.”
“You see, in my view a writer is a writer not because she writes well and easily, because she has amazing talent, because everything she does is golden. In my view a writer is a writer because even when there is no hope, even when nothing you do shows any sign of promise, you keep writing anyway.”
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”
—Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
“Art washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.”
—Pablo Picasso, Spanish painter, sculptor, poet, and playwright
“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.”
—Katharine Hepburn, actress
“We are all of us stars, and we deserve to twinkle.”
—Marilyn Monroe, actress and bombshell
Saving & Spending
Saving and spending is the WORST but is something a lot of us need help with. Some … more than others. (*cough* me *cough*)
You can find financial advice from rich old white dudes anywhere you look, so here’s some down-to-earth advice from three brilliant, money-wise black women:
Quotes on Financial Responsibility from People Who Actually Manage Their Money Well
“Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.”
—Tonya Rapley, My Fab Finance
“Whatever your financial goal is, whether it’s buying a house, traveling or investing, what is one simple task you can take today, quickly?”
—Tiffany Aliche, The Budgetnista
“Choose your splurges carefully. … Make it a smart splurge, something that’s really going to invest in your spirit and not just add more things to your life.”
Lisa Frison is the Vice President of Marketing & Brand Strategy Team, Cross Segment Strategy, and Integration at Wells Fargo. She’s chock-full of wisdom, and I really wish I could’ve fit this whole quote (from an interview with Essence) on the worksheet:
“Make a budget. You have just got to open your eyes and see what you’re working with and make a budget that should include all your sources of income, as well as all your expenses, and then also think about things that you want to plan for, that maybe you’re not able to do right now. That could be a vacation. It could be your children’s education, it could be that you want to purchase a home, it could be that you want to get more actively involved in investing for retirement. Make a budget and make it inclusive of everything that you need to be looking at. Then track your spending.”
Caring for Self
Oh man, does the quote from Michelle Obama below speak to my client-pleasing, volunteer-addict, martyr-mom heart.
Put on your own oxygen mask first by making personal care a priority. Love yourself, and once you’ve saved money with your financial goals, pull a Donna Meagle and
Treat. Yo. Self.
Quotes about Self Love
“We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to do’ list.”
—Michelle Obama, lawyer, writer, and former First Lady of the United States
“The road to enlightenment is long and difficult, and you should try not to forget snacks and magazines.”
“I naively believe that self-love is 80 percent of the solution, that it helps beyond words to take yourself through the day with great humor and lots of small treats.”
—Anne Lamott, novelist, nonfiction author, and writing teacher
“Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
—Lucille Ball, film executive, producer, actress, and comedian
“Rest when you’re weary. Refresh and renew yourself, your body, your mind, your spirit. Then get back to work.”
—Ralph Marston, professional football player
“Pray thee, spare, thyself at times: for it becomes a wise man sometimes to relax the high pressure of his attention to work.”
—Thomas Aquinas, Italian Medieval philosopher and Catholic theologian
“Whenever we feel stressed out, that’s a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.”
—Daniel Goleman, psychologist, science journalist, and author of Emotional Intelligence
“Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the ‘right’ thing to do. It also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%.”
—Travis Bradberry, Ph.D., psychologist and co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0
“Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend.”
—Lao Tzu, ancient Chinese philosopher
“With age comes the understanding and appreciation of your most important asset, your health.”
“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”
—Oprah Winfrey, media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer, and philanthropist
“I was one of those people who put too much emphasis on work and career and material possessions, and it took its toll on all my relationships, on my physical health, my emotional and mental health.”
—Tony Shalhoub, actor
“There isn’t anybody out there who doesn’t have a mental health issue, whether it’s depression, anxiety, or how to cope with relationships. Having OCD is not an embarrassment anymore—for me. Just know that there is help and your life could be better if you go out and seek the help.”
—Howie Mandel, television host and comedian
“I’m taking better care of myself by eating healthy, exercising and doing my best to keep my stress level down as well as role modeling good habits for my kids.”
—Monica Potter, actress
“My mind is constantly going. For me to completely relax, I gotta get rid of my cell phone.”
—Kenny Chesney, country singer, songwriter, and producer
“We need time to defuse, to contemplate. Just as in sleep our brains relax and give us dreams, so at some time in the day we need to disconnect, reconnect, and look around us.”
—Laurie Colwin, author
“Music keeps me sane and keeps my mind on something. It’s fragile up there.”
—Grammy Winner will.i.am, musician, rapper, producer, entrepreneur, and philanthropist
“Sometimes I do need to go to karaoke, sometimes I need to relax.”
—Jackie Chan, martial artist, actor, director, producer, and stuntman
Wow, you read all those quotes? What is it about quotes that resonate so much with us? I think it’s that need to hear the voices of others, to hear what others have to say in their own words. Since you made it this far, why not read this article full of quotes about why people love quotes? Want the master class in aphorisms? Read some Oscar Wilde.